Being Early: Good Or Bad?


I have noticed that the people who are late are often so much jollier than the people who have to wait for them

 Edward Verrall Lucas


I have this one annoying characteristic.

I’m always early.

Yes, I consider that to be an annoying characteristic. Why? Because I live in NYC, city of the perpetually late.

 

My general thought process when I make plans to meet someone is:

|1| Make sure I get there 10-15 minutes early just in case my friend is getting there early as well, so I don’t have to make them wait. AND being 10-15 minutes early isn’t a big deal for me because I always make sure my phone is fully charged so I can use that time to scroll Instagram.
|2| Get there early.
|3| Wait
|4| Wait some more
|5| Impatiently tap my feet OR pace up and down the sidewalk OR just find a random coffee shop to sit and wait at
|6| Start reading that e-book on my phone that I’ve been meaning to read but never got a chance to read
|7| Oh, look at that, my friend is 45 minutes late. At least I got a chance to read the first few chapters of my new book

This has generally been my experience with most of my friends. I don’t really mind it because, as I detailed above, I use that time to catch up on social media or read a book. Also, the anxiety of being late and making someone wait for me is just way too stressful for me so I’d really rather just grab a cup of coffee and leisurely wait.

But there have been some friends who are just INSANELY late (I’m talking 2-3 hours) & it’s become such a regular occurrence for them that I’ve had to train myself to be late. It’s like pulling teeth for me. And by being late, I mean, arrive on time or 5 minutes after the scheduled time.

  

I’m lucky in that my significant other is an ON TIME kind of guy and we’ve definitely commiserated on that together. We are always the first to arrive at a party or a dinner date or to any event really. We also don’t judge or blame our friends for being late people. It’s just a quality of theirs that, as long as we’re aware of it, doesn’t make it such a big deal.

Conversations will go like this:
Him: Oh, you’re going out with _____ tonight?
Me: Yep, meeting _______ at the bar.
Him: What time?
Me: I think like. . .8pm?
Him: So, you mean like 9pm?
Me: . . . .yeah

I’m still going to be an early person. It’s still 100% more comfortable for me to be early and waiting than to be late and anxious. I’ve just managed to prepare myself better for it. Always keep my phone charged. Choose an area near fun shops. Bring a book. Because, sometimes it’s nice finding that little spot of time for yourself!

 

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  • Rose Mont

    Lol, your phone is always charged. I am a little of both. Sometimes I just underestimate the realistic time it’s going to take me to get somewhere. I don’t do it on purpose and sometimes it’s those kids. Im sure your friends appreciate it and i’s most likely not on purpose.

  • Ankit Sharma

    i believe being early is a good habit to follow because it comes through so much of discipline. But not everyone wants to be early and its not all bad..so its an individual choice what u want to be.

  • My other half is always early, I’m habitually late, between us we normally end up on time which works quite well.

  • I always prefer to be early. That way I can relax and unwind and don’t need to rush. It’s always better that way. I read recently that you should never be early for an interview, just be on time. I dunno. I just love being early. Lol

  • Rachael Burow

    Omg this is my life! I married my husband who always needs to be late lol so it was frustrating at first but we eventually found our middle. But whenever it’s just me I’m always early! Love this
    post and the photos!

  • I am always early. I always bring a book with me and I just read until the person shows up. I cannot stand people who are constantly late. It’s rude.

  • andreajesus10

    It should not be a bad thing to be early – it should be looked upon as a good thing 🙂

  • OMG people being late frustrates me so much. There had better be a good reason for it. I am always early and I always have a book to make up the difference. But I would be leaving if someone was an hour late and didn’t bother to tell me.

  • Jen Sky Walker

    I place such high value on being on time, so lateness from others really irritates me. It just shows disrespect for those that are waiting for you.

  • Thena Reading-Franssen

    I can’t stand to be late to certain things…like the start of sporting events. That drives me nuts. Other things, I am more lax about.

  • I love being on time. For me it’s like a show of respect for the people that I’m going to meet. I hate being late, although I am used to friends who are.

  • Milton

    I like being on time for stuff as well as it I feel it’s more professional to be punctual. No one likes to be stood up or kept waiting.

  • Ruth Bloch

    Ok i’m totally a late person….but i find i’m getting better with the years!!! Does that mean i’ve become an ontime person!?!

  • Being early is respectable. Its better to be early than late, late is super annoying especially if others are waiting for you.

  • Super Millennial

    Early, early, early! I’m such an early person I was always taught 10 mins early or else you are late lol

  • Tanya at Intimate Explorations

    I’m typically right on time. Like you, I like to respect other’s time. But I also like to stay at home until the last possible moment.

  • Cynthia Nicoletti

    One thing I am never is late. It drives me crazy when people are. I am always so early that it is a sickness lol.

  • Akamatra

    I used to be like that myself. Then I had my daughter and I stopped having that problem, lol

  • mail4rosey

    I’d like to be early everywhere I go. Unfortunately that’s not the case at all these days.

  • Woah 2-3 hours late is insane! I can’t believe it but at least you can catch up with social media and reading! I tend to do the same when I am waiting for someone as I am usually early xx

  • lmao…i’m always late….sorry…i live in NYC too…haha. I’m working on being better at it though.

  • Bismah Abdelgawad

    I try to arrive early when meeting someone as a sign of respect. However, I have two small boys so I cannot help to be late sometimes.

  • Emmanuel Damian

    I’m always early! I think it’s good so that you can still prepare.

  • Kalaw Sarah

    Now that I have kids, I value my time so I really appreciate people that arrive on time.

  • Denay DeGuzman

    I love your white off-the-shoulder top! It’s just my style. 🙂

  • Suzanne Spiegoski-Decamps

    Given I’m an extremely punctual person, I consider anything over 20 min late to be downright rude. What kind of friends are having you wait around for them for 2-3 hours?! These are not your pals, I have to say, unfortunately…